AS AN ARMY BRAT, I FELT LIKE A NOMAD!


I was born into an Army family, where moving from base to base became a way of life. I learned early how to adapt, make friends quickly, and then let go as we moved again. I discovered how resilience, connection, and the idea of “home” can shift beneath your feet. I also learned how a strong exterior can quietly hide inner unrest, like a mask we wear to hide our real self.
I’ve known what it’s like to live with anxiety and fear. My father, though doing his best, found it difficult to express emotions, praise or encouragement, and I grew up seeking approval and validation from him, but mainly from others. That pattern followed me into adulthood, feeling not good enough, sabotaging my own success, and believing I wasn’t truly worthy of love, joy, or happiness.
There were times I felt completely out of sync with life, disconnected from myself and others… and it was exhausting. But with the help of caring friends and mentors, I discovered that change was possible — that life could feel lighter, more abundant, and more peaceful.
If you’re going through difficult times — wrestling with thoughts, emotions, or beliefs that hold you back — you don’t have to face them alone. Together, we’ll explore what truly drives and inspires you, uncover habits and patterns that no longer serve you, and create new ways of being that feel authentic, grounded, and deeply aligned with what you want and who you really are.

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